Thank you for sharing such a sensitive subject here at Online Advices! I must say this from the start: all the problems that you have with your husband are YOUR fault. It does not matter how many men you will change, the problems will follow you because all the issues that you have are within yourself. So before leaving your husband, remember that you MUST work on ANY relationship you are in, and sooner or later, you will arrive to the same conclusion: he is not mature enough, etc. That is because it is not him that he is not mature enough but it is you that are not stimulating enough the man inside him, you need to re-evaluate yourself and change your behavior and line of thinking. My advice is to break up with this other man, and work on your marriage. Marriage is not a joke, nor it is a game. So, stick in it and work at it. And remember, this man you are in love with with decided to get involved with a married woman, you. So, that should tell you about how low his moral values and principles are. What he did to your husband, he will do to you. And rest assure, he will leave you! The secret of your happiness stays within you, and you must work at it, stand by your husband and follow up on life with hard work. Stop blaming others for your makings and stop seeing the negative in all, find the positive out of life and your marriage. And stop having sex with the other man, that is ALL you guys have at this point, lust! If you stop having sex with him for 6 months, and you will still love him after that, it will be different, but you are not thinking straight because of your hormones now, so avoid the other man, and treat your husband as he deserves. Good Luck! Signed, Psychologist - Online Advices!
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Apr 8, 2011 05:28 PM
