Hi everyone. Well, I'm a student of 18 years and I had to repeat a class this year due to some personal and financial problems. This year, I have met two girls with whom I've become friendly and quite close. But I didn't trust them enough, though, I love them as my good friends. The problem is that I have a boyfriend and I have a personal life, that is, my boyfriend and his friends are very close to me to the extent that we are a small family. They have always supported me in my dire times and they have always been there for me even in my good times. But my two friends girl, Sunny and Chelly, are very nice too. The problem is that I never wish to mix my personal life, that is, my small family with my school mates for fear of further complications and intrusion. Since then, I have always put my small family aside and my school friends as well. But in September, this year, my brother has organised a surprise birthday party for me in which my small family and my two school friends Sunny and Chelly were invited. To be honest, I never told Sunny and Chelly about my relationship with my boyfriend. I didn't trust them enough to disclose them about my small family. I have always posed my boyfriend as my elder cousin and I guess they doubted it. But for the birthday party, the guys didn't like the Sunny and Chelly. They found the girls too cheap as they seemed to be excited at the least sight of the guys' presence. So, they flatly ignored the girls and mostly showed concern for me to the extent that before leaving for home, they kissed me but reluctantly shook hands with Sunny and Chelly. Since that day, Sunny was behaving quite strangely and kept asking me about the guys. I didn't know what to do. I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it and he requested me not to intrude the girls in our small family in case the girls wish to befriend them. So, I explained to Sunny that my so-called cousin and his mates were not really willing to befriend her. Since then, she has become very sarcastic with me. Then, one day I was chatting with her and suddenly, my elder cousin from England came to chat with me, something very weird as he never liked to chat with me nor converse with me. I found his ways of chatting with me quite strange, as if, he wanted to seek some confirmations about me indirectly in his talks. In the end, he asked me if i knew a girl named Sunny as she added him and chatted with him. Gradually, I realised that Sunny chats with my cousin and tells him EVERYTHING about me. As my cousin is a kind of guy who likes to gossip and behaves like those cheap women, I didn't like it and I nicely asked Sunny to remove him from her account and not to chat with him. I also told her that I'll explain it to her later on in more details. But she refused saying that my cousin is very nice to her. I implored her to remove him but she refused and I told her to let it be and that she may keep him. Then, she flatly told me not to treat her like a dog. I was very hurt when she said this and since then, I wave 'HELLO' 'BYE' to her at school but I no more feel like keeping in touch with her like before. I was very hurt. Though, I apologised to her in case I have hurt her consciously or unconsciously. As she has been of great support to me in some dire times, I didn't want to ignore her. Yet, she behaves strangely. After some days, I discovered that Sunny has been gossiping and maligning me with my teacher. I was damn hurt and I just felt like to never talk to her again. But yesterday she chatted with me. She was complaining that I was insulting her and Chelly because I don't talk to them like before and I don't meet them. She said so much harsh words to me. She began talking of so many things, like i don't talk to her, not even during exams time - a lie - because i've talked to her and wished her best of lucks everytime we went for exams. I also asked her why she waited till now to tell me all this and why she didn't told me what bothers her really at that time. She told me it took her time. I just felt like i didn't want to talk to her. I don't know. It was not at all that i wish to run away from anything but I feel very odd and very hurtful by her talks. She began complaining that she has helped me and she did this and that for me and so on. . We both did so many things to please each other yet I have never complained about anything nor shall i do it now. But it really hurts and in the end, she began harassing me like a pest that she did this and that for me. I just asked her to fuck off since she was getting on my nerves. I was being nice to her but her sarcasm really upset me. So, i told her that if she was talking about insult, then i recalled her about the matter of removing my cousin and how she spoke to me, she flatly changed topic. She kept on pestering me about what she did for me and I was fed up, i just told her to fuck off! Since then, she has told me so many hurtful things! I was very hurt and told her that one of her ex-boyfriend was very right when he labelled her with so many bad names to characterless girl. She was like on fire when i told her that and she also told me so many bad things which still hurts me. But in the end, I realised that i have not been wrong in posing my boyfriend as my elder cousin as Sunny was very much interested in him. I discussed this problem with my sibling and my small family. They all told me that she is a frustrated girl who is simply jealous because my small family are not interested in her and she can't digest this at all. Since she doesn't hear from me for quite long, she just needed an excuse to vent on her frustration on me by starting with some emotional blackmail to end up with great insults. No matter what, I guess it seems quite complicated but I want to know where my fault lies and to how far i have been greatly unfair to Sunny and Chelly. I admit that they have been of great support to me in some dire times. This is the reason I didn't want to ignore them though Sunny hurt me initially with her talks. But this time, I want to know what to do because I don't want to hurt anyone. I really feel guilty in case I have hurt her a lot. I admit I have been at some moment quite rude, especially, when i told her in anger:- fuck off! Please, help me! Thank you!
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