First off, thank you for the advice request, it takes guts to acknowledge the reality of facts. Now if you know that you will lose your man if you tell him about your son, that means that your entire relationship started in a dishonest way. You have not been totally honest to your man, and therefore there are secrets that need to be revealed. My advice is to open up and be honest with your partner, no matter what, honesty is the best policy, and if you think your men loves you because he does not know your secrets, you are wrong. True love is when someone knows everything about you and still loves you. So, take a breath, and go tell him the truth, and if he leaves you for it, then you were never really together, since the entire relationship was based on lies. Even an omission is a lie, so silence is really a lie., if it covers the reality. If your man truly loves and respects you, then this info should not be an issue in your relationship. Just think of this: if you keep info from him that if he finds out would break you apart, that means you are not really together, he is just being with you because he does not the whole truth. So, my advice: be honest, open up, and see what happens. If he leaves you for this, he does not deserve you. Good luck! Signed, Psychologist - Online Advices
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Dec 15, 2010 02:14 PM
