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I called my guy friend a gay and teased him to a girl he is not really in love with. Then I laughed and not because I thought of him as a gay but I find his reactions funny. Then he got mad and said that I was lucky because he was getting along with my jokes and asked what kind of person i think he is. I had been teasing him like that but this was the first time he became that angry. Since then, he had never talked to me again. I said sorry to him but he said that no more. I really felt bad. What should I do to repair our friendship? He's actually a nice guy really...

Requested By: Takara tomodachi in Friends - 19 days ago

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Well first, calling a guy friend gay is like a practical joke, it wouldn't be a big deal. But I guess because you went a bit too far, not just the gay part. When did this happen? If it hasn't been long, he will eventually forgive you. If it's been sometime, you gotta start to do something about it. If it's been a long time, you need to do something about it. I don't know what guy to guy relationship are like, but I do know that you should apologize and do something for him.

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I m a 31 year old female from india, going through a very difficult phase of life. I had an affair with a 25-year-old boy for 5-6 months and then suddenly he broke up with me and i am wondering what to do now. In the beginning, everything was perfect. I wanted him to commit but he said that he would marry me only if his parents agree, otherwise not (he will not force them for anything because he adores them especially mother). i said okay and we continued. At first, he was a perfect guy i was searching for my whole life. then he began to become emotionally distant. (He left his job after 1 month of our affair and joined a college as a professor 1 month after). He used to text me only, not calling (always had an excuse that he doesnt have time). we used to fight on this issue as i felt he dosnt love me deeply. he used to deny that saying that only circumstances have changed. there were a few things which hurt me deeply. He is so close to his mum (he sleeps with her when she gets sick, cancelled our date because of her, controls me so that she can like me in india, it is okay to live with parents even after marriage, but he is so close to his mum. whatever happens to his mum she always calls him instead of his father). i used to live up to his expectations always. problems arise when i demanded equality in relationship. I used to fight with him that he dosnt call me, doesnt care me extra, and wrote certain things (like i need a breakup etc several times but never meant it). he never changed for me. i used to make all the compromises for him. He is very career oriented also saying that he can leave everything for his career. He used to think he always thinks right. our fights increased day by day and one day he told me that he doesnt want to continue with me anymore saying that i am very controlling, not at all understanding and that he talked abt marrying his choice of girl at home indirectly and his parents will never agree, so its better to finish all these things. but said give him 2-3 months may be things get change. he needs time. i get crazy. i called him so many times sometimes he returned my calls, but then dint. i used to call him from diff numbers and then he said one day "u r disturbing me." but as he was talking to me sometime so i had a hope that everything wud be fine at the end. Then i got sick and asked him to drive me to doctor. he said he is busy in donating blood somewhere (he used to dream about charity always) but then after he went to cyber cafe (i knew because he scraped me on orkut that day). when i confronted him with this, he said "dont u think i could have an urgent work". i cried many times because of his behavior. My mistakes are only that i wanted him to love me back in the way i used to love him. on his b'day i called him at 12, he was in a movie theater so he talked to me only 1-2 min and told me to put down phone saying that he was watching move. i got frustrated. on our meeting anniversary, i wished him and he replied (by texting only). i requested him to start once again which he dint reply back. sometimes he talks to me and sometimes doesnot. i get confused what is this. my friend also called him and told him to talk to me, he said "i will talk to her, but i am busy with my mum right now." but after all this, i still love him, dont know why. he is not ready to commit, not ready to continue with me anymore. but i decided not to call him and it is about 1 month now. He dint call me in these days. on sunday, it is valentine. he proposed me on last valentine and i am looking for his call for that day. (my mistake was that whenever i fought with him i got crazy but i also loved him so much he knows that.) and more importantly, he behaved in the same way after he broke up with me. he insulted me so many times. (even when we were together that i cant drink water in a sophisticated way, his mum will never like me. MBAs dont have anything to read. he is M.TECh. so he did a hard to work to get his eng. degree. etc etc. i always felt he is right in everything losing my identity. i guess he is an extreme case of mummy's boy. he never cares for what i think or feel. Pls advise me what is all this. is he narcissist? what shud i do now?

Requested By: reena sharma in Affair - 25 days ago

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Reena, I may not know a lot about love and all, but this is just messed up! To me, it sounds like hes spending too much, "time" and "plays" too much with his mother. He's 25 and STILL needs his mother when he's sick = = thats just bs (sry for the language). If he doesn't realize how you feel, then hes not the one for you. He may be the perfect guy for you, but isn't that called one-side love? If he really loved you, he wouldn't make you go through all of this pain and suffering for you. I'm not saying," BREAK HIS HEART, GET REVENGE," I'm saying it's time to move on, and be free from this man.

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Please help me! I need all the advice i can! I hav this friend at school thats been sticking on to me FOREVER since summer! his friends ditched him, he lives in a homestay, and is a LONER. im in grade 10 and so is he. I felt sorta bad for him so i tried bein his friend befoe the break started. now he made new friends but is still acting lik a stalker. he would always call at least every 10 mins, always talks to me on msn/facebook, send me stupid emails lik "hows i going" on fb or msn! my friends started avoiding me thinking tat we're going out. then his new friends told me that he was going to confess to me on our christmas party on the 24! i couldnt believe it but i did after i saw him at the mall picking out a gift at this store i rilli lik.(it was a anime/clothing store)nobody except me and my best friend goes there. he practically new everything about me! and even before i wen to the mall he asked me (on mobile on FB) wat i wanted for christmas. i told him i wanted the new Mokona Modoki hat set with a scarf and mittens(christmas specia). and that thing is lik freakin60 dollars. i saw him wlking out of the store with the bag he then he went to buy wrapping paper. i asked him wat he did and he said he went christmas shopping for a friend of his O_O PLZ HELP ME, i lik him as a friend and all but hes just too much for me. wat should i do to either prevent this or turn him down?

Requested By: Listen in Relationships - 78 days ago

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Well first of all, I think you did the right thing becoming friends, so dont regret what you did. Secondly, this is totally normal for him to act like this, he ws just feeling lonely. Really lonely... He must still feel like there is a huge gap in his heart. Being betrayed like that is harsh. Try thinking about it. Maybe he clinged onto you because he didn't want to lose you. His old friends might've been "taken away" by someone or they just didnt even care for him anymore. Even though hes like that, you must be a really great person to him, since he has a crush on you. There are 3 options for you to fix your "love" problem. Reject him, either nicely or firmly. Accept him, go out with him, he might be a great boyfriend. And lastly, talk to him. tell im your true feelings, and listen to him. I hope I helped you a bit :)

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my brother is almost 16 and he is secretly dating his ex english teacher who is 24. they've been together for 2 months but my parents think he has been seeing a girl who is 16 and studies in another school. he didnt tell them because they wont accept his relashionship. my parents just got divorced and the legal battle is still on, so they are very agressive with each other. in our contry his girlfriend cannot be legally punished for he is old enough and their relashion is not considered illegal. last night he told me the story and asked for advise and i dont know what to do! he thought about telling our mom only, but she has been depressed because of her divorce and im afraid this might be too much for her, for her 16-year-old son is having sexual relashions with a 24-year-old woman. what should i tell him to do?

Requested By: randomperson in Relationships - 98 days ago

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hi randomperson, i can see that, your request is really difficult for you to decide what's right. I'm sorry t say but you have to talk to a real counselor for this. If you still don't know what to do i would suggest this: tell the truth. the truth will be painful,hard, an even scary, but if you don't, everything is going to end up worse. Think about it. If your mom/dad found out, it would mean lying to them,not being responsible, and making things worse for your parents. BUT, keeping this to yorself wold be, i guess, ok too. All I;m saying is that its too risky. Sorry that I'm not a counselor but, i hope it helps.

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my brother is almost 16 and he is secretly dating his ex english teacher who is 24. they've been together for 2 months but my parents think he has been seeing a girl who is 16 and studies in another school. he didnt tell them because they wont accept his relashionship. my parents just got divorced and the legal battle is still on, so they are very agressive with each other. in our contry his girlfriend cannot be legally punished for he is old enough and their relashion is not considered illegal. last night he told me the story and asked for advise and i dont know what to do! he thought about telling our mom only, but she has been depressed because of her divorce and im afraid this might be too much for her, for her 16-year-old son is having sexual relashions with a 24-year-old woman. what should i tell him to do?

Requested By: randomperson in Relationships - 98 days ago

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well, i guess it's a bit worse but, you should ry thinking a little bit and then decide. Theres no need to rush : )

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Hi everyone. Well, I'm a student of 18 years and I had to repeat a class this year due to some personal and financial problems. This year, I have met two girls with whom I've become friendly and quite close. But I didn't trust them enough, though, I love them as my good friends. The problem is that I have a boyfriend and I have a personal life, that is, my boyfriend and his friends are very close to me to the extent that we are a small family. They have always supported me in my dire times and they have always been there for me even in my good times. But my two friends girl, Sunny and Chelly, are very nice too. The problem is that I never wish to mix my personal life, that is, my small family with my school mates for fear of further complications and intrusion. Since then, I have always put my small family aside and my school friends as well. But in September, this year, my brother has organised a surprise birthday party for me in which my small family and my two school friends Sunny and Chelly were invited. To be honest, I never told Sunny and Chelly about my relationship with my boyfriend. I didn't trust them enough to disclose them about my small family. I have always posed my boyfriend as my elder cousin and I guess they doubted it. But for the birthday party, the guys didn't like the Sunny and Chelly. They found the girls too cheap as they seemed to be excited at the least sight of the guys' presence. So, they flatly ignored the girls and mostly showed concern for me to the extent that before leaving for home, they kissed me but reluctantly shook hands with Sunny and Chelly. Since that day, Sunny was behaving quite strangely and kept asking me about the guys. I didn't know what to do. I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it and he requested me not to intrude the girls in our small family in case the girls wish to befriend them. So, I explained to Sunny that my so-called cousin and his mates were not really willing to befriend her. Since then, she has become very sarcastic with me. Then, one day I was chatting with her and suddenly, my elder cousin from England came to chat with me, something very weird as he never liked to chat with me nor converse with me. I found his ways of chatting with me quite strange, as if, he wanted to seek some confirmations about me indirectly in his talks. In the end, he asked me if i knew a girl named Sunny as she added him and chatted with him. Gradually, I realised that Sunny chats with my cousin and tells him EVERYTHING about me. As my cousin is a kind of guy who likes to gossip and behaves like those cheap women, I didn't like it and I nicely asked Sunny to remove him from her account and not to chat with him. I also told her that I'll explain it to her later on in more details. But she refused saying that my cousin is very nice to her. I implored her to remove him but she refused and I told her to let it be and that she may keep him. Then, she flatly told me not to treat her like a dog. I was very hurt when she said this and since then, I wave 'HELLO' 'BYE' to her at school but I no more feel like keeping in touch with her like before. I was very hurt. Though, I apologised to her in case I have hurt her consciously or unconsciously. As she has been of great support to me in some dire times, I didn't want to ignore her. Yet, she behaves strangely. After some days, I discovered that Sunny has been gossiping and maligning me with my teacher. I was damn hurt and I just felt like to never talk to her again. But yesterday she chatted with me. She was complaining that I was insulting her and Chelly because I don't talk to them like before and I don't meet them. She said so much harsh words to me. She began talking of so many things, like i don't talk to her, not even during exams time - a lie - because i've talked to her and wished her best of lucks everytime we went for exams. I also asked her why she waited till now to tell me all this and why she didn't told me what bothers her really at that time. She told me it took her time. I just felt like i didn't want to talk to her. I don't know. It was not at all that i wish to run away from anything but I feel very odd and very hurtful by her talks. She began complaining that she has helped me and she did this and that for me and so on. . We both did so many things to please each other yet I have never complained about anything nor shall i do it now. But it really hurts and in the end, she began harassing me like a pest that she did this and that for me. I just asked her to fuck off since she was getting on my nerves. I was being nice to her but her sarcasm really upset me. So, i told her that if she was talking about insult, then i recalled her about the matter of removing my cousin and how she spoke to me, she flatly changed topic. She kept on pestering me about what she did for me and I was fed up, i just told her to fuck off! Since then, she has told me so many hurtful things! I was very hurt and told her that one of her ex-boyfriend was very right when he labelled her with so many bad names to characterless girl. She was like on fire when i told her that and she also told me so many bad things which still hurts me. But in the end, I realised that i have not been wrong in posing my boyfriend as my elder cousin as Sunny was very much interested in him. I discussed this problem with my sibling and my small family. They all told me that she is a frustrated girl who is simply jealous because my small family are not interested in her and she can't digest this at all. Since she doesn't hear from me for quite long, she just needed an excuse to vent on her frustration on me by starting with some emotional blackmail to end up with great insults. No matter what, I guess it seems quite complicated but I want to know where my fault lies and to how far i have been greatly unfair to Sunny and Chelly. I admit that they have been of great support to me in some dire times. This is the reason I didn't want to ignore them though Sunny hurt me initially with her talks. But this time, I want to know what to do because I don't want to hurt anyone. I really feel guilty in case I have hurt her a lot. I admit I have been at some moment quite rude, especially, when i told her in anger:- fuck off! Please, help me! Thank you!

Requested By: Taykto Meister in Friends - 104 days ago

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Hi Taykto Meister, i read your problem andI would like to help. Your proble is with Sunny, if I'm right. First you should think about what Sunny's life is like. You said that you just met her this year and your becoming nice friends with her. You don't know her details right? Then you should probably find out if she has family problems or some issues with past friends/ex's. I know this may sound stalker-ish but, this ould be one of the reasons why shes suddenly angry. Family issues could be the problem,since your so loved by your small family and friends. Another point is about the things between Sunny and your so-called cousin. Your cousin migt have said something to her to make her feel better or good about herself, or tha he actually cares about her while never practically talking to you. Thats why Sunny started acting strange when you told her not to talk to your cousin. You tried to take something away fro Sunny. Sure, he's your cousin and you don't talk to him much but, maybe he's someone Sunny can talk to about her problems. You also have a boyfriend. Does Sunny have one? Since you didn't mention that she has one, I think she doesn't. Taykto Meister , your being love by everyone, with everyone supporting you, but what about Sunny. Sunny must've tried to make an excuse for Chelly too, so that you won't take her away. I bet Sunny doesn't know Wha i strongly suggest you to do is, welcome her to the world your in. being loved by everyone is something she must've wanted. I don't know if im right or not but, it sounds like she's really lonely in her life/

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Requested By: Psychologist in Other - 116 days ago

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Maybe, whenever someone posts yur advice, getting a notification would would let them know easier rather then checking everyday. :)

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